What habits do happy couples have?
Aiyswarya Sarathy, studied Engineering at Texas A&M University
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My boyfriend and I are very happy together :). And we have been together for a long time now! Here’s what makes us tick:
- We have at least one meal together. We try and be home for dinner every night. No social obligations and no work obligations stretch into the night for ‘us’ time. If I do need to go out with my coworkers, I make it a ‘happy hour’. This way I’m still home for dinner. Of course, this doesn’t always work, but 90% of the time, we make it happen.
- ‘Weather check in the middle of the day’. Both of us are engineers, and both our days are swamped with work. Sometimes I’m lucky if I can make time to wolf down a sandwich. While I’m doing that, I place a call to him, or he texts me. It’s a 2–5 minute call, but we make sure the other person is doing okay.
- ‘We date once a week’. We plan something ‘special’ once a week. Sometimes it is an impromptu beer outside, a hike during the weekends, a dinner outside on Friday night, a movie and popcorn at home, or I cook something special and light a candle.. right in the middle of the week. It works like a charm :)
- We hug as soon as we see each other. I can’t even tell you how good this makes me feel. Before we talk about our day, before a ‘hi’, we hug. It doesn’t matter if it is a quick one or a long one where I simply won’t let go.
- When something important comes up, we let the other person know right away or as soon as possible. This is important, and we make it a priority.
- If he sees me cooking/cleaning, he always offers to help, and vice versa, unless of course one of us is working.
- No matter who wakes up first, we wish each other good morning. Nothing elaborate. A quick kiss, a quick hug, and a short whisper is more than enough.
These are some of our everyday habits. It has worked wonderfully for both of us. Remember, you have to make your partner a priority. These things develop over time, but put some effort into it, and watch your magic unfold :)
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▌词汇:
what makes sb. tick: (infml 口) what makes sb. behave in the way he does 某人这样做的原因是什麽: I’ve never really understood what makes her tick. 我实在弄不明白她为什麽这样。
obligation: law, moral pressure, promise, etc that forces one to do sth （法律、道义、承诺等的）义务、职责、责任；
weather check: A weather check is where you call your partner during the day to see how they are. A caring phone call or text can really brighten their day and show them that youre thinking of them. “天气检查”其实是说，白天抽空打电话问问恋人怎么样了。一个关心的电话或短信真的可以给他带去阳光，并且可以说明你在想他。
swamp: flood or soak (sth) with water 淹没或浸泡（某物）: The sink overflowed and swamped the kitchen. 洗涤槽的水溢出来了, 厨房里到处是水。swamp sb/sth (with sth) overwhelm sb/sth with a great quantity of things （以繁多的事物）压倒某人[某事物]: We asked for applications and were swamped (with them). 我们请大家提出申请, 因而（为此）应接不暇。
wolf down: v. 狼吞虎咽地吃；
impromptu: (done) without preparation, rehearsal or thought in advance 事先无准备（的）、临时（的）、即兴（的）、即席（的）an impromptu speech, news conference, performance,etc 即席讲话、临时召开的记者招待会、即兴表演；
vice versa: the other way round; with the terms or conditions reversed 反之亦然; 反过来情况也一样: We gossip about them and ,vice versa, ie they gossip about us. 我们议论他们，他们也议论我们。
elaborate: very detailed and complicated; carefully prepared and finished 详尽而复杂的; 精心制作的: elaborate plans 详尽的计划
magic unfold: 见证奇迹。